The importance of authenticity, you do you boo!

In the world of speed dating, it's easy to get caught up in trying to impress the other person. However, one of the most important things to remember is to be yourself. It may seem like a simple concept, but being authentic can make all the difference when it comes to making a genuine connection. Yes yes, I know what you are thinking; “I am me”.. But seriously!

When your speed dating, you have a limited amount of time to make an impression on the other person. This can be nerve-wracking, and it's natural to want to put your best foot forward.

However, trying to be someone you're not is not only exhausting, but it's also not sustainable. If you're pretending to be someone else, sooner or later, the real you will come out. This can lead to disappointment or even the end of a relationship.

Don’t just be agreeable, don’t just mirror them, don’t just say yes yes oh yes! It’s a huge turn off.

Contribute meaningfully with your own interests and ideas. No-one will think it’s dorky, Passion is hot! Passion can be about anything! The joy you get from that activity is what people can see when you light up talking about it.

Being yourself from the start can help build a stronger connection with your date. When you're authentic, you're allowing the other person to get to know the real you, and this can help them feel more comfortable around you. It also shows that you're confident in who you are, and this can be a very attractive quality.

Another reason why it's important to be yourself when speed dating is that it can help you attract the right kind of people. When you're pretending to be someone else, you may attract people who are not a good match for you, or are possibly fakers themselves! Eeep.. 

When you're authentic, you're more likely to attract people who share your interests and values. This can help you find a more compatible partner and increase your chances of building a successful relationship.

It's also important to remember that nobody is perfect, and that's okay. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that you need to be flawless in order to impress your date. However, this is simply not true.

Everyone has flaws, and being open and honest about them can actually help build trust and intimacy in a relationship. By embracing your imperfections, you're showing your date that you're comfortable in your own skin and that you're not afraid to be vulnerable.

One of the biggest advantages of being yourself when speed dating is that it can help you feel more relaxed and confident.  When you're pretending to be someone else, you may feel anxious and stressed out.  However, when you're authentic, you can relax and be yourself, which can help you feel more comfortable and confident.

Seriously, it sounds so simple, but this can help you make a better impression on your date and increase your chances of getting a second date. And if not, it’s not anything personal, it just means they were not a match and them saying no has saved you a lot of headache! 

How cool is it when people know exactly what they want! 

If you're in that clear headspace, and the other person is in that clear headspace, it leads to beautiful authenticity.  Everyone can talk openly about what they dream of and we can respect that we might not be that person for them because our dreams are in another direction. You've just had a beautiful exchange, practiced clear communication, and you’re another step closer to you real match.

It's important to remember that being yourself doesn't mean you should be rude or disrespectful. It's important to be respectful of your date's feelings and opinions, even if they differ from your own.

Being yourself also doesn't mean you should overshare or be too intense.

It's important to strike a balance between being authentic and being respectful and considerate of your date's boundaries.

And a hot tip - no-one likes to hear negative stories about you ex partner! How you speak about them is taken as a reflection of you, so leave the victim story behind. What’s positive and exciting in your life right now!?

If you can’t find that, it might be a bit too soon after a break up to be trying to date.

In conclusion, being yourself when speed dating is crucial for building genuine connections with potential partners. It can help you attract the right kind of people, increase your confidence and comfort level, and build trust and intimacy in a relationship.

Remember to embrace your imperfections and be respectful of your date's feelings and opinions. By being true to yourself, you'll increase your chances of finding a compatible partner and building a successful relationship.

And even if you don’t meet anyone who you click with on the night, if you are authentically you you’ll get great joy out of the conversations you have with the opposite sex, and leave feeling uplifted and positive. Possibly even learning more about yourself!

There are so many awesome singles out there, it’s all being clear in your own mind about what you want so that you can recognise the match for you - not another time waster :)

But that’s a whole other topic, to come!

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